Fidelity ~ a matter of opinion and definition

And so Wrote the Male:
Ah, fidelity....the term that means different things to men and women...or at least different nuances. Men are from Mars....and are physiologically built to hunt. The only thing that allows a man to keep his libido strong is variety. The only thing that ensures survival of the species is variety. Darwin's theory of evolution. The male of every species has the urge to sow his seeds far and wide. Those that don't are condemned to extinction.

The desire for sex will always cause a man to "stray" - not necessarily in having affairs, but at least in going to massage parlours and ensuring the health of the world's oldest profession. So a man could have a very healthy relationship with his wife but he will still need relief elsewhere....by paying for it. I have many, many friends, who claim that they are very faithful to their wives, but they would nevertheless go to the spa and have their urges taken care of. To most women, this is infidelity...

Men promise love to get sex, women promise sex to get love.....what a world we live in !!!


And so Replied the Female:
Men can justify themselves out of anything, even infidelity (i.e. an affair or paid, emotionless sex). All this while I thought Darwin's Theory of Evolution is about the survival of the fittest through a process known as "natural selection". And isn’t that about genetic mutations ... not variety? :)

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. And therefore, it's the nature of the beast that makes men unable to control their desires, or so you wrote. Yet, isn't that why humankind is endowed with a mind that, among others, allows them to control themselves? Do we act on our every "desire" or "want"? Certainly not. Thus, it means that we are able to control our actions. Therefore, do not blame the nature of men but one's personal lack of self control for your actions. Sure, variety is the spice of life. If you want to fuck around, don’t make promises. And if you make promises, don’t fuck around. It’s a very simple rule.

Yeah, love and sex are like commodities and work like a clockwork in the world of economics. Where there is demand, there is supply; and vice versa. And as you so aptly put, "Men promise love to get sex, women promise sex to get love." I will add one more to that collection of quotes, "Men pay good money for beauty and youth. Women sacrifice beauty and youth for good money." And yes, that's the world we live in ... unfortunately.

But the choice is ours ... isn't it?

Quote:
"It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities."
~ JK Rowling (English writer, author of Harry Potter)