What is “a Player”?

“What sort of player?” many of you would ask.

“CD player, DVD player, cassette player? Play what?” Ahhh … the plot thickens. Let’s get down to it!

On the Big Bang Breakfast Show this morning on Fly FM, listeners were asked how they define “a Player”. Say what?

Melanie (or was it Natalie? I keep getting them mixed up), the co-host of the programme started the ball rolling! She defined “a player” as a guy who knows how to compliment women and make them feel real good, but then break-up with the women subsequently. Ahhh … see the light yet?

A male caller has his version, or perhaps his justification, of what “a player” is. He said that it is gentlemanly (or chivalrous) to compliment women according to the Gentlemen’s Handbook. Errmm … I didn’t even know such a handbook exists. Neither did Fly because he asked this guy where to get the book. The caller laughed and said, “err … those romance novels la …” which got him a bit of ribbing from Fly and Melanie (or Natalie) on reading Daniel Steele books, etc. The caller further commented, “It is gentlemanly to compliment women. But if the relationship doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out. Not the guy’s problem. But at least they had fun.” Hmmm … he made it sound complimentary, even justified, to be called “a Player”. Ah huh … are we still talking about the same thing?

My version; ‘A Player is a guy who knows how to push all the right buttons to get what he wants from a woman. But once he achieves his objective, he will leave the woman high and dry real fast!’ I think at the end of the day, the male caller is not wrong in his definition. The only difference is the question of intent. If a guy makes a woman feel good with the right intention and in the end things doesn’t work out, I don’t think he should be labelled “a Player”. Otherwise, … “a Player” he is.

What’s your version?